So, as you guys can see, we have fallen off the bandwagon with our blog a little bit. Who knew that preparing for graduation, taking classes, working, hanging out with friends, sleeping, eating, showering etc. could take up so much time??
But, we are back, with a resolution to do better than ever! Starting with our most exciting announcement…
WE’RE GOING TO CALIFORNIA BABIESSSSS!!!
Yes, it’s official. On Wednesday, May 15th (exactly 3 days after we graduate) Abby and I (along with 3 of our close friends) are getting on a plane to LAX. From there, we are going to San Diego to bask on the beaches and visit pandas, with a mini-stay in Los Angeles to enjoy the high life.
It’s going to be amazing. Awesome. Wonderful. Fun. My first and possibly only trip with my college peeps.
It’s also the GREATEST TEST OF ADULTHOOD THAT I HAVE FACED YET.
I know what you’re thinking. “Poor baby, has to plan a fun trip to California. This is the hardest thing she’s ever done. Must be tough.” Yes, I’m very lucky that this is my greatest test of adulthood so far. But between plane tickets, hotels, MONEY, food, car rentals, MONEY, packing, sleeping arrangements, MONEY, compromising with 4 other people, and MONEY, it has been an enlightening experience. For one thing, I realized why vacations stress my parents out.
But, as I’ve stumbled my way closer to the Pacific Coast, I’ve definitely learned a few things (such as there are a LOT of gross motels in this world). So, for the next few weeks, stay tuned for posts about:
Finding a Hotel. Vacation Tips. Planning a Trip with Multiple People, All With Different Ideas. Money. Awesome Things We Plan To Do in California. And more!
In the meantime, here’s a picture of a sloth chilling on a beach:
So any sentence starting with “There are two types of people in the world…” is usually followed by a gross generalization. But wait! I think this one might have some merit.
There are two types of people in the world: internalizers and externalizers.
Allow me to explain.
Jordan and I were on the bus the other day, talking about why we feel perpetually incompetent. We were thinking that this especially pertains to work/school. I used to work at Dunkin’ Donuts, for example, and even when I was doing things well, I NEVER felt like I knew what I was doing. Every time I got an order right was a relief. Lucky breaks.
On the flip, Jordan and I both observed that some people just seemed effortlessly competent. You know who they are. They seem to just know what to do in all situations. And the only time they ever screw up is because of some strange extenuating circumstance, like somebody poisoned the waterhole or there was a snake in his/her boot. (Toy Story. Good movie.)
And then we got to thinking, maybe therein lies the difference between the clueless and the competent.
Internalizers: People like me. Internalizers do something well and attribute it to luck or chance. But if something goes wrong, it is totally 100% his/her own fault. This is followed by profuse apologies and full acceptance of responsibility for aforementioned mistake. Thus the mistake is internalized as the result of some inherent flaw in the internalizer’s being. Why oh why can’t we do anything right?!
Externalizers: The opposite kind of person. If he or she makes a mistake, it is externalized—a fluke, if you will. Dunkin’ Donuts example: “I was having a really bad day, and I had a headache, and I had this really itchy tag on my pants, and my contacts were messed up, and I was distracted by this really really loud stampede of zoo animals outside, and THAT’S why I gave you regular instead of decaf.” They expect that they are going to do the right thing all the time, and if something goes wrong, it’s usually not the externalizer’s fault.
I suppose most of us fall somewhere in between, but tend towards one side more than the other.
My theory is that maybe we all screw up about the same amount if you averaged it out. It’s just that people have different perceptions of how and why these screw ups happen.
Maybe if you paid some attention to it, maybe you could strike a nice little balance:
- For the internalizer, learn to recognize when you’re being too hard on yourself, and acknowledge when you’ve accomplished something. Pat yourself on the back once in a while. Literally, pat yourself on the back. It feels more legit that way.
- For the externalizer, continue to work it, gurl!! ( ;) <3 <3!!!) But also own up to your mistakes—at least to yourself—so that you can learn from them. After all, nobody’s perfect.
And there you go. Just a little teaspoon of insight for the night. And with that I bid thee goodnight. Stop by again soon! But not too soon because I’m going to bed. Night world!
Filed under Psychology
It’s our last first day of classes ever!!! Cue excitement and panic!
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